| I went to the theatre at the weekend to
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| | the three main sets of visual, auditory
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| watch a stage version of a favourite film
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| | or kinaesthetic words. The set used most
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| of mine. The film is called 'East is
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| | by any individual is referred to as their
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| East' and is nothing short of hilarious
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| | primary system.Let me give you an example
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| throughout. The stage show is wonderful
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| | of the kind of words I am talking about
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| too.The idea behind the film is about a
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| | here;Examples of Visual words are; see,
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| mixed race family where the strict father
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| | look, flash, glare, shiny, brilliant,
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| from Pakistan has raised his children
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| | view, bright, picture, fade, ray
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| with his northern English wife in a
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| | etc.Examples of Auditory words are; hear,
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| working class environment. The father
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| | sound, whisper, noise, quiet, listen,
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| expects his sons to agree to an arranged
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| | dissonant, song, thunder etc.Examples of
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| marriage and is infuriated when they do
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| | Kinaesthetic words are; feel, touch,
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| not want to do so. I shall not go on in
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| | grasp, tickle, hold, pressure, weigh,
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| too much depth about it, but if you get
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| | strike, painful etc.A way to find out
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| the chance to see it, you will laugh out
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| | yours or a friends lead system is to talk
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| loud at times.The things that make me
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| | for two minutes on a topic that you like
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| laugh about it so much is the way in
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| | and then for another two minutes about a
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| which language is used. There is a very
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| | topic you do not like, do it with a
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| specific language that incorporates many
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| | friend or record yourself and then note
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| factors that is used by the father; the
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| | down all the words you used and put them
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| way he talks envelopes a northern English
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| | into categories to note the main system
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| accent, Pakistani mannerisms and traits
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| | that is used. It is good practice to look
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| and a wonderful working class profanity
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| | for what you use most and those that are
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| that is the hallmark of this brilliantly
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| | used in conversations you have all the
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| written script.However, I still find
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| | time with other people. This way you will
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| myself finding the way the father
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| | heighten your own sensory acuity and
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| communicates verbally to be very
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| | sharpen your ability to spot those used
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| aggressive and direct; his language is
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| | by others more and more easily.So the
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| hilarious, but it is never going to win
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| | next stage of rapport development is to
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| him many friends upon an initial
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| | then begin to match the words used by
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| meeting!It got me thinking about how to
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| | those that you wish to gain with rapport
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| use language to build and develop rapport
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| | wit in much the same way that we matched
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| with other people and using your language
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| | the non-verbal communication before.
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| to enhance relationships with people
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| | Develop a more appropriately frequent use
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| right from the start.I am not going to
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| | of their primary system; punctuate your
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| write about the content of your language;
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| | sentences with those types of words.What
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| the subject matter is not what I want to
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| | you are doing here is stepping into their
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| highlight today. I want to highlight how
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| | map of the world and demonstrating
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| to be aware of how others use language.
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| | unconsciously that you are listening and
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| Then you can very cleverly reflect their
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| | valuing what they say and how they say
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| style of language back to them in your
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| | it.Once you have sufficiently matched and
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| own communication to build rapport
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| | developed the primary system for
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| beautifully.Think about noticing and
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| | developing rapport more easily, you can
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| considering the words people are using.
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| | start doing some other things to develop
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| We all use words every day to communicate
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| | rapport with language.One thing to do
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| with those around us in our daily lives.
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| | with your language is to demonstrate that
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| Just take a moment now to think of some
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| | you are aware of their on-going reality.
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| of the occasions where you failed to get
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| | The most effective way to do this is
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| the result you wanted by using the wrong
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| | stack truisms together. Let me explain
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| words, or where you could have got a
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| | that. By truism, I am referring to making
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| better result if the words had been more
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| | a casual statement in a sentence that is
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| suited to the person you were talking
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| | true about the person that you are
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| to.Each individual can only get
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| | communicating with. For example; You are
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| information by seeing sights, hearing
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| | reading this article, you are breathing
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| sounds, touching, smelling, tasting or
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| | and you have yours eyes open. Now these
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| having someone else describe it. Any
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| | are rather crudely obvious.I entered a
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| experience, memory or processing of
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| | restaurant a little while ago and the
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| information has to be done through one or
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| | staff were very pressured and busy. As we
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| more of these six channels:Visual
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| | entered I said to the lady that greeted
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| (sights); Auditory (sounds); Kinaesthetic
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| | us "Hello there, I spoke to you earlier
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| (physical feelings); Olfactory (odours);
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| | and booked a table in the name of Eason,
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| Gustatory (tastes); and digital (words).
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| | I see you are very busy tonight, but I
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| So, if you are eating a meal in a
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| | can tell that you are coping very well by
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| restaurant, you might see the food and
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| | the way everyone on that table you just
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| the variance of colours on the table and
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| | served is smiling." Here, I stated 3
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| other people around you; hear the
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| | truisms, when you state three truisms,
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| clinking of their cutlery on the plates;
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| | the other person will unconsciously
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| smell the various aromas of the foods as
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| | process this as recognition that you
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| they are served up; taste the flavours of
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| | sincerely see things from their
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| the food that is eaten; be aware of
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| | perspective. We got some fantastic
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| conversations around you in the room.Each
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| | service that night I can tell you, and it
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| experience or memory in our minds may
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| | was all founded on making that immediate
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| include some or all of these elements. We
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| | rapport connection. I could have been an
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| each tend to have a pattern of which
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| | awkward customer from then on, but the
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| element we use the most or which we use
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| | waitress would still have enjoyed serving
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| first. We can only consciously use one
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| | us as we had perfect rapport from the
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| element at a time, so we can easily
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| | beginning.Then you can think about how
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| notice which gets primary usage by anyone
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| | you can develop rapport by stating
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| that we come into contact with. The
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| | truisms (statements that cannot be
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| patterns that we use the most then tend
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| | disputed or argued with) about their
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| to show up with more frequency than
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| | experience in that moment. Notice and
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| others in our use of language. The
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| | employ these very simple basic strategies
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| markers are the descriptive words that I
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| | and notice how rapport begins to happen
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| am going to highlight in a moment. Most
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| | much more easily.
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| people show a clear preference for one of
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