| Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | | | | designer, organized, physically fit, have great eyes, |
| All of us come from different backgrounds and | | | | organized, patient, helpful, kind the list will and can go on |
| upbringing. According to our family life and nature we | | | | and on, because you are unique and you are special. |
| see life differently, read people differently, among other | | | | Its all about concentrating and being grateful for all of |
| things. No one has lived through the same | | | | the things you have not all of the things you don't. Get |
| circumstances, no one has the same qualities as you | | | | into this mind set, your energy will be vibrating at a |
| and no one thinks the same, so logically, why would | | | | higher frequency and you will attract better and |
| you still compare yourself to your best friend, your | | | | greater things to you and this way you will be able help |
| sibling, or worse a celebrity? | | | | others realize their worth and potential. You will lead |
| If you only had Angelina Jolie's looks, then your | | | | others to feel good about themselves. |
| husband or boyfriend would love you more, or if you | | | | You have unique gifts that can be used for the benefit |
| only had a designer wardrobe like (fill in the blank with | | | | of others you come in contact with. Once you can |
| the most fashionable person you know), then you | | | | celebrate your own achievements you will be able to |
| would be more popular, or … the list can go on | | | | celebrate those of others too. |
| forever and ever, but the longer it goes on the more | | | | Exercises: |
| destructive it is to your self esteem. Why would you | | | | Become Aware of Your Negative Self Talk |
| continue to play a game where you set yourself up to | | | | For a week make a note each instance that you call |
| be the loser each and every time. | | | | yourself a bad name, say how much you hate a body |
| We both know logically that if you had Jolie's looks, a | | | | part, or get jealous of someone else's appearance. |
| designer wardrobe, or whatever you think others have | | | | Write down exactly what you are thinking. When you |
| more than you, its not going to make you as happy as | | | | review your log and read the statements out loud, you |
| you think. It's a true saying when they say "the grass is | | | | will see how much negative energy you send your |
| always greener on the other side." Happiness comes | | | | way. Would you tell this to your mother or sister? |
| from within not with everything you can get outwardly, | | | | What kind of friend are you being to yourself? |
| and on top of that, although you may think its | | | | Finding the Pattern |
| happiness that you are searching for when you wish | | | | You will notice using your list that you are telling |
| you had this and that, but its really your self esteem | | | | yourself the same things over and over again and in |
| and your self worth that you are looking to verify. | | | | certain situations. For example when you are at a |
| Your value as a person has little to do with what you | | | | particular friends house, you may find yourself saying |
| look like or what you possess. When you compare | | | | things to yourself about how much more behaved her |
| yourself to others and look at yourself as less quality, | | | | kids are than yours, or how she keeps a neater house, |
| then you deny all of your own unique gifts and talents, | | | | or what a perfect house wife she is, etc. If you find |
| and what a waste it would be to the world if you didn't | | | | yourself doing this a lot when going to her house, then |
| develop and use them. | | | | next time you go, give yourself a pep talk. |
| Regularly assessing your worth in terms of other | | | | Don't Compare, Model |
| people's gifts, whether it is their talent, money, looks, or | | | | It's ok to look at another person and admire their |
| material wealth, can lead to dissatisfaction, even when | | | | strengths but when you compare it to yourself its |
| you are doing the best. So stop. | | | | destructive. Instead try to model that behavior or |
| Make a list of all of your positive traits that you | | | | develop that strength that you admire in yourself, it |
| possess. Maybe you can shop for a fabulous outfit | | | | may not come out the same but that's what you want, |
| within a budget, maybe you're a talented writer, | | | | you want to make it your own. |