| Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | | | | patient, helpful, kind the list will and can |
| | | | go on and on, because you are unique and you |
| All of us come from different backgrounds and | | | | are special. Its all about concentrating and |
| upbringing. According to our family life and | | | | being grateful for all of the things you have |
| nature we see life differently, read people | | | | not all of the things you don't. Get into |
| differently, among other things. No one has | | | | this mind set, your energy will be vibrating |
| lived through the same circumstances, no one | | | | at a higher frequency and you will attract |
| has the same qualities as you and no one | | | | better and greater things to you and this way |
| thinks the same, so logically, why would you | | | | you will be able help others realize their |
| still compare yourself to your best friend, | | | | worth and potential. You will lead others to |
| your sibling, or worse a celebrity? | | | | feel good about themselves. |
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| If you only had Angelina Jolie's looks, then | | | | You have unique gifts that can be used for |
| your husband or boyfriend would love you | | | | the benefit of others you come in contact |
| more, or if you only had a designer wardrobe | | | | with. Once you can celebrate your own |
| like (fill in the blank with the most | | | | achievements you will be able to celebrate |
| fashionable person you know), then you would | | | | those of others too. |
| be more popular, or … the list can go | | | | |
| on forever and ever, but the longer it goes | | | | Exercises: |
| on the more destructive it is to your self | | | | |
| esteem. Why would you continue to play a game | | | | Become Aware of Your Negative Self Talk |
| where you set yourself up to be the loser | | | | |
| each and every time. | | | | For a week make a note each instance that |
| | | | you call yourself a bad name, say how much |
| We both know logically that if you had | | | | you hate a body part, or get jealous of |
| Jolie's looks, a designer wardrobe, or | | | | someone else's appearance. Write down exactly |
| whatever you think others have more than you, | | | | what you are thinking. When you review your |
| its not going to make you as happy as you | | | | log and read the statements out loud, you |
| think. It's a true saying when they say "the | | | | will see how much negative energy you send |
| grass is always greener on the other side." | | | | your way. Would you tell this to your mother |
| Happiness comes from within not with | | | | or sister? What kind of friend are you being |
| everything you can get outwardly, and on top | | | | to yourself? |
| of that, although you may think its happiness | | | | |
| that you are searching for when you wish you | | | | Finding the Pattern |
| had this and that, but its really your self | | | | |
| esteem and your self worth that you are | | | | You will notice using your list that you are |
| looking to verify. | | | | telling yourself the same things over and |
| | | | over again and in certain situations. For |
| Your value as a person has little to do with | | | | example when you are at a particular friends |
| what you look like or what you possess. When | | | | house, you may find yourself saying things to |
| you compare yourself to others and look at | | | | yourself about how much more behaved her kids |
| yourself as less quality, then you deny all | | | | are than yours, or how she keeps a neater |
| of your own unique gifts and talents, and | | | | house, or what a perfect house wife she is, |
| what a waste it would be to the world if you | | | | etc. If you find yourself doing this a lot |
| didn't develop and use them. | | | | when going to her house, then next time you |
| | | | go, give yourself a pep talk. |
| Regularly assessing your worth in terms of | | | | |
| other people's gifts, whether it is their | | | | Don't Compare, Model |
| talent, money, looks, or material wealth, can | | | | |
| lead to dissatisfaction, even when you are | | | | It's ok to look at another person and admire |
| doing the best. So stop. | | | | their strengths but when you compare it to |
| | | | yourself its destructive. Instead try to |
| Make a list of all of your positive traits | | | | model that behavior or develop that strength |
| that you possess. Maybe you can shop for a | | | | that you admire in yourself, it may not come |
| fabulous outfit within a budget, maybe you're | | | | out the same but that's what you want, you |
| a talented writer, designer, organized, | | | | want to make it your own. |
| physically fit, have great eyes, organized, | | | | |